De-Funkify Me, Baby

At this time, the general energy with folks has presented me everything from stress and anger to fear and the worst cases of PMS imaginable. It’s easy to assume we’re freaking out over the holidays or preparing for the new year, however, I’m starting to see a different pattern. A lot of us are in the “nothing’s-really-changing-and-I-can’t-take-it-anymore” FUNK. It’s all around me. It’s affecting some of my family, friends, clients and myself as well.

Mine has nothing to do with the personal life. As a matter of fact, there’s been a lot going on there. My funk is regarding the direction I want my career to take. I have so many ideas, but not enough time to incorporate them all. This happens to me every few years and I’m usually ahead of my time. After going through this “red light, green light” obstacle course many times, I’ve finally gotten the hang of the process:

1. This is another transitional phase.
2. I need to keep those ideas available, but let the Universe direct me.
3. I have to stick with my daily routine until opportunities present themselves.

WHAT IS A TRANSITIONAL PHASE?
A transition is moving from one point in your life to another to reach a higher level in your physical and spiritual life. In plain English, it’s the down time between the present and next life change.
HOW DO I KNOW I‘M GOING THROUGH IT? There are many common emotions and symptoms we experience while transitioning. Here are a few examples:

* Feeling lost or confused about where your life is headed.
* Knowing something is missing, but you can’t figure what it is.
* Constantly searching for your next major step in life.
* Trying to add “new” things to your routine.
* Feeling depressed for no apparent reason.
* Obsessively cleaning your home and re-organizing.
* Being completely bored with your life.
* Feeling as if you have absolutely NO direction.
* Freaking out over little things.
* Constantly second guessing yourself.
* Feeling “blah” and not wanting to leave your home.
WHAT HAPPENS NEXT? You know you’re out of the phase when “new things” enter your physical world and/or when you “magically“ feel like you‘re back to normal. Some of the symptoms won’t go away if that was a change you needed to make. For example, if you were a slob and you experience the obsession with cleaning, then perhaps you’re not supposed to be that way any longer. I was one of those people and believe me, cleanliness really is next to Godliness.
Once you’re out of the transition, it’s super important to allow change to occur. Welcome it with open arms, even if it appears to be negative on the surface. For some people, the break-up of a relationship (platonic or romantic) can be considered negative, but if it ends, there’s usually a damn good reason. I choose to look at that as a rebirth, especially if it wasn’t a healthy relationship to begin with. It’s an opportunity to start over with a clean slate and create the life you really want and with who you want.

I know someone who dated a guy for 14 months without a commitment. She gave him an altimatium, but it didn’t go in her favor. They broke up the other day and she’s devastated. She’s a fabulous woman with a lot to offer the right person. Yeah, it’s probably the worst time of year to end a relationship, but I believe she needed to free herself in order to make room for someone in her highest good. 14 months and no commitment, are you kidding me? So not worth it…

WHAT ABOUT THE SINGLES? Don’t worry, I didn’t forget about you guys! The down time for singles during the holidays can be unbearable. I know, I’ve been there plenty of times myself. In effort to keep this entry as short as possible, here are some suggestions to jump start your ability to attract dating prospects or make other important changes to your life:

Change your presence - Make a list of the qualities you possess that you believe are unhealthy and do the opposite. Place yourself in positive environments with people who make you laugh and feel good about yourself. This will dramatically alter the energy you’re putting out there and other people’s perceptions of you.

Your Personal and Professional Space - What’s going on with the energy around you? Are you working with people who drag you down and/or are you living in an uninspiring environment? If so, it’s time for a change! Rearrange the furniture, paint your walls, change your residence and/or apply for new jobs. There’s no use staying on a career path or living in a home that isn’t right for you any longer.

New, new new - Check out your wardrobe. Do you have ancient outfits and stuff that no longer fits you? Get rid of it and replace it with something spectacular. Even if you can’t afford an entire closet, buy one outfit at a time. The same goes for furniture, inexpensive jewelry, make-up and home décor. Don’t overextend yourself financially, though.

Your Health Status - It’s important to do grounding and physical excersizes in order to maintain balance. Of course, a healthy diet couldn’t hurt especially to restore your skin’s radiance and aura.

Mix and Mingle - If you’re not used to going out, it’s high time you start. You don’t have to become a barfly (please don’t), but going to nice places where you can mingle with new folks is always a great option. Start making yourself available to your friends and their social circles. You never know who you will meet. I went to a wedding as someone’s “plus-one” and BAM! Hello boyfriend…

Say yes instead of no and it could change your life!
The above suggestions aren’t just for the singles. You can apply these to any life change you’re seeking. This is the best way to DE-FUNKIFY yourself and create the path you can be happy with. Please remember that the rewards come with hard work, patience and faith. It’s best to not have an “instant gratification” complex while going through the process. Trust me, I’ve been there and done that. The results come when you’re living in the now and are open to divine time.

xoxo,
Cristin