The Journey To Joy: Walking Away

Have you ever felt as though you're stuck in a web of endless drama, yet none of the issues are yours?  Do you find yourself being dragged down by other people's selfishness and don't know how to get out?  This happens to most people at least a few times in life, but for some it's the only way of life.

Getting out of the vicious cycle is pretty easy, in theory.  All you have to say is NO and all you really need to do is walk away.  Sounds wonderful, doesn't it?  Well it is and the greatest benefit is peace of mind on a grand scale.

The reasons some people can't seem to grasp this concept and follow through with it is FEAR and a severe lack of self-confidence.  They refuse to detach from people or situations that aren't in their highest good because they truly believe that's the best they can get.  They haven't allowed themselves to witness a different outcome by making other, more emotionally sound choices. Essentially, they're giving away their power every single day and some don't even know it!

The Toxic Ringmaster
Not all people are victims.  If it's not your responsibility and/or it doesn't affect your life directly, stay out of the situation. Too many people suck the life out of others and feel entitled to do so.  They do this because they are insecure, power hungry and controlling.  Some would also call these folks narcissists and the most commons behaviors are as follows:

1- They believe their opinions matter when they do not.

2- Try to control the outcome of a situation that doesn't concern them.

3- Constantly insert themselves in conversations and activities they're not invited to.

4- Over step the boundaries of other people and/or situations that isn't connected to them.

5- Create chaos in others' lives just to get their way.

6- They attempt to poison the reputation of others just to be viewed as special, important and/or righteous in comparison.

7- These people play the victim all the time.

8- Manipulate others for selfish purposes.

9- They never take responsibility for their actions and are never sorry  for the damage they cause.

10- Are never, truly LOYAL and will throw anyone under the bus to save their own hide.


The Oblivious Enabler
Are you in a relationship with someone, romantic or platonic, who has some or all of the above qualities and often find yourself feeling drained?  Do you feel as though you've given your time to that person only to end up without a life of your own?  If so chances are you've been living vicariously though another person, enabling their poor treatment of you and setting yourself up for failure.  The only thing you have accomplished is giving away your power so THEY can be successful and happy.   So what about you?

 If you are encouraging any of those narcissistic behaviors in your friend by participating with them in those activities, then you need to take a long, hard and very difficult view of your choices and life direction.  You are just as guilty as they are for causing damage to yourself and possibly other people.  If you witness your friend doing harm to another in any way and do or say nothing, you're an accessory and are guilty.  This would be why your life isn't playing out well for you and your very special friend.

There's only one way out...

Say NO then walk away.  Not just temporarily, but forever depending on the severity of the situation.  Doing the right thing is always the best choice, even if it disrupts your world.  Nothing stays the same.  Life goes on and other people in your highest good are out there living the life you should have.  Everyone has that choice.  Don't let the opportunity pass you by.