Patience. None of us have it when we really want something to happen. Nobody likes to feel the sting of what seems like a failed attempt in any situation. Nobody wants to wait for those damaging cuts to heal. When we're hurt, we want to feel better NOW. Sure some of us have found a way to practice being patient in certain circumstances, but being consistent is another story. This is normal. This is what makes us human. Not being able to control the ego during the dark moments in our lives is not a sin! There's no need to beat yourself up when your emotions fall prey to the many cracks in the path that leads to your final destination.
Unfortunately though, getting to the point of consistency with our efforts in being positive and having faith in the unknown is essential for healing the pain after those trips to hell. This in itself is a journey, alongside all the other interesting lemons life throws our way. Somestimes we get whacked with a doozie and pass out cold. Other times we catch that little bastard and use it to create a special dish, one that everyone around us can enjoy.
Now how does that work exactly? For starters, catching whatever life decides to nail us with is merely a perception issue. It's a choice. How you internalize your circumstances coupled with your self-esteem will determine your capabilities.
For instance, I spent many years analyzing my choices. It took me for what seemed like forever to view myself in the most positive light my battered ego would allow. I probably spent about a decade battling with that damn thing. Back and forth, up and down. In the midst of dealing with my self-inflicted injuries, I found myself acting like an annoying 5 year old constantly wailing, "Are we there yet God? I need a break!" and comparing my life to other people around me. By the time I reached the finale, I was absolutely exhausted. Then come to find out I didn't need to fight much at all. I just needed to tell my ego to shut the hell up, set my standards and stick with them. Go figure.
With every path we are presented, there are lessons we must learn in order to grow and create either a new outcome in our situation or a new life all together. Here are some of the signs I was forced to read while travelling on the highway toward exit Getoffyourlazyassville.
Acceptance...
One of the hardest tasks I was given while trying to create the life I really wanted was to accept reality and stop trying to change what I could not control. I also needed to understand that there will always be cracks and pot holes on every path I take. I must attempt a flying leap, otherwise I'd be keeping myself from achieving my goals. There were many times when I kept my foot on the brake and didn't take chances. The results were not pretty and of course, I was filled with regret. Stupid me.
God has a middle finger...
...and he's not afraid to use it. Just because we want something does not mean we can have it. I have a real problem with those so-called manifesting gurus who claim we can manifest absolutely anything we want. That's a load of BS. We can manifest our happiness, but what we think will make us happy may not turn out as planned and/or we'll find that one thing/person isn't the real deal. That happens A LOT, trust me on that one. We can only manifest what we're meant to have.
That does not mean we're limited in life, however. It just means that we cannot force a person to feel a certain way, control the exact salary we're offered or change a situation to suit our egotistically inspired needs. It's not like we're the only people on Earth, you see. Our power of choice and the free will of others mostly determines the outcome of the situation we either create or find ourselves in.
Opportunities are presented every single day...
We just have to pull our heads out of our asses, open our eyes then grab one! Yes. Change is everywhere. It's so easy to allow the ego to take over and dictate our perception of the people and circumstances associated with us. It's easy to complain about what we don't have and compare ourselves to another. It's incredibly easy to blame something or someone else and not be accountable for our role in a failed marriage, fight with a friend, issues at work, ongoing family feuds, etc... It's easy to be shortsighted, judgmental and weak.
It's not easy to stand up for what you believe in without feeling that nasty twinge of guilt. To be open and honest with everyone you meet, accountable for your actions, forgiving of others and loving toward yourself. Finally, having the guts to take a chance on something or someone new. These things take time, endurance and stability, but they will make you strong. They will heal your spirit. They will make you successful! These things will make you lovable. They will earn you ...
With every breath you take, an opportunity for change is knocking on your door, but will you choose to be available?
"Good things come to those who wait." Ah yes, it's that damn patience again. Maybe good things come in certain situations, but what if we're waiting for something that will happen, but isn't truly in our highest good? What if we're fixated on that one thing we believe will make us feel loved, but is meant to come in a different form? I see this a lot in my readings.
Mr./Ms. Client complains, cries, dwells and is desperate for Mr./Ms. Asshole to contact them for a reconciliation. They wait weeks, months and sometime years. Eventually Mr./Ms. Client moves on, meets someone new then Mr./Ms. Asshole finally contacts them. Too bad, so sad and too friggen late! The weird thing I've noticed is that Mr./Ms. Client fights the new connection, compares it to the relationship from Hell, but then falls in love. Ahhhh ;) Turns out, Mr./Ms. Awesome shares a lot of qualities with Mr./Ms. Asshole. I've even heard of many situations where the two have the same name...Wild!
The lesson?
Mr./Ms. Client's attraction to certain qualities in a potential mate was right on. They just weren't meant to be with that specific asshole. They were meant to be...
....wait for it....
HAPPY
...with someone similar, but honest, dedicated, just as hot, SMART enough to know a good thing when they see it with amazing follow-through.
Holy shit. What a concept! Yeah, it took me forever to learn that one and though I'm not proud of the length of time it took to get it, I'm stoked about my outcome. Nice eh?
The problem with patience: The longer you wait for a certain something (not in your highest good) to happen, the more impatient you can get with life. You could become cynical toward new and better people. You might beat yourself up and may carry a "doomed to fail" perception of your abilities, thus manifesting what you don't want.
The good kind of patience: Waiting for the manifestation of what you deserve, while staying true to your standards without being too picky or judgmental. This will create a consistent, positive cycle of attraction, which will instill more self-confidence and inner peace within.
Self-confidence and inner peace = happiness....damnit!
So if you're finding yourself riding that highway toward Getoffyourlazyassville, might I make a suggestion? It'll be a good idea to make a pit stop at Stopmakingexcuses Dr. to take a leak, refuel your tank and get something to eat because it's a long ass road. While you're driving, you're living and you have the power to make that ride as happy or miserable as you'd like. It's your choice.
Here's another hint: Refrain from complaining and whining, "Are we there yet?" If you're alive, you're not. Another fabulous lesson I learned after getting a flat tire from one of those G-D pot holes. Good times!
Unfortunately though, getting to the point of consistency with our efforts in being positive and having faith in the unknown is essential for healing the pain after those trips to hell. This in itself is a journey, alongside all the other interesting lemons life throws our way. Somestimes we get whacked with a doozie and pass out cold. Other times we catch that little bastard and use it to create a special dish, one that everyone around us can enjoy.
Now how does that work exactly? For starters, catching whatever life decides to nail us with is merely a perception issue. It's a choice. How you internalize your circumstances coupled with your self-esteem will determine your capabilities.
For instance, I spent many years analyzing my choices. It took me for what seemed like forever to view myself in the most positive light my battered ego would allow. I probably spent about a decade battling with that damn thing. Back and forth, up and down. In the midst of dealing with my self-inflicted injuries, I found myself acting like an annoying 5 year old constantly wailing, "Are we there yet God? I need a break!" and comparing my life to other people around me. By the time I reached the finale, I was absolutely exhausted. Then come to find out I didn't need to fight much at all. I just needed to tell my ego to shut the hell up, set my standards and stick with them. Go figure.
With every path we are presented, there are lessons we must learn in order to grow and create either a new outcome in our situation or a new life all together. Here are some of the signs I was forced to read while travelling on the highway toward exit Getoffyourlazyassville.
Acceptance...
One of the hardest tasks I was given while trying to create the life I really wanted was to accept reality and stop trying to change what I could not control. I also needed to understand that there will always be cracks and pot holes on every path I take. I must attempt a flying leap, otherwise I'd be keeping myself from achieving my goals. There were many times when I kept my foot on the brake and didn't take chances. The results were not pretty and of course, I was filled with regret. Stupid me.
God has a middle finger...
...and he's not afraid to use it. Just because we want something does not mean we can have it. I have a real problem with those so-called manifesting gurus who claim we can manifest absolutely anything we want. That's a load of BS. We can manifest our happiness, but what we think will make us happy may not turn out as planned and/or we'll find that one thing/person isn't the real deal. That happens A LOT, trust me on that one. We can only manifest what we're meant to have.
That does not mean we're limited in life, however. It just means that we cannot force a person to feel a certain way, control the exact salary we're offered or change a situation to suit our egotistically inspired needs. It's not like we're the only people on Earth, you see. Our power of choice and the free will of others mostly determines the outcome of the situation we either create or find ourselves in.
Opportunities are presented every single day...
We just have to pull our heads out of our asses, open our eyes then grab one! Yes. Change is everywhere. It's so easy to allow the ego to take over and dictate our perception of the people and circumstances associated with us. It's easy to complain about what we don't have and compare ourselves to another. It's incredibly easy to blame something or someone else and not be accountable for our role in a failed marriage, fight with a friend, issues at work, ongoing family feuds, etc... It's easy to be shortsighted, judgmental and weak.
It's not easy to stand up for what you believe in without feeling that nasty twinge of guilt. To be open and honest with everyone you meet, accountable for your actions, forgiving of others and loving toward yourself. Finally, having the guts to take a chance on something or someone new. These things take time, endurance and stability, but they will make you strong. They will heal your spirit. They will make you successful! These things will make you lovable. They will earn you ...
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| R-E-S-P-E-C-T |
With every breath you take, an opportunity for change is knocking on your door, but will you choose to be available?
"Good things come to those who wait." Ah yes, it's that damn patience again. Maybe good things come in certain situations, but what if we're waiting for something that will happen, but isn't truly in our highest good? What if we're fixated on that one thing we believe will make us feel loved, but is meant to come in a different form? I see this a lot in my readings.
Mr./Ms. Client complains, cries, dwells and is desperate for Mr./Ms. Asshole to contact them for a reconciliation. They wait weeks, months and sometime years. Eventually Mr./Ms. Client moves on, meets someone new then Mr./Ms. Asshole finally contacts them. Too bad, so sad and too friggen late! The weird thing I've noticed is that Mr./Ms. Client fights the new connection, compares it to the relationship from Hell, but then falls in love. Ahhhh ;) Turns out, Mr./Ms. Awesome shares a lot of qualities with Mr./Ms. Asshole. I've even heard of many situations where the two have the same name...Wild!
The lesson?
Mr./Ms. Client's attraction to certain qualities in a potential mate was right on. They just weren't meant to be with that specific asshole. They were meant to be...
....wait for it....
HAPPY
...with someone similar, but honest, dedicated, just as hot, SMART enough to know a good thing when they see it with amazing follow-through.
Holy shit. What a concept! Yeah, it took me forever to learn that one and though I'm not proud of the length of time it took to get it, I'm stoked about my outcome. Nice eh?
The problem with patience: The longer you wait for a certain something (not in your highest good) to happen, the more impatient you can get with life. You could become cynical toward new and better people. You might beat yourself up and may carry a "doomed to fail" perception of your abilities, thus manifesting what you don't want.
The good kind of patience: Waiting for the manifestation of what you deserve, while staying true to your standards without being too picky or judgmental. This will create a consistent, positive cycle of attraction, which will instill more self-confidence and inner peace within.
Self-confidence and inner peace = happiness....damnit!
So if you're finding yourself riding that highway toward Getoffyourlazyassville, might I make a suggestion? It'll be a good idea to make a pit stop at Stopmakingexcuses Dr. to take a leak, refuel your tank and get something to eat because it's a long ass road. While you're driving, you're living and you have the power to make that ride as happy or miserable as you'd like. It's your choice.
Here's another hint: Refrain from complaining and whining, "Are we there yet?" If you're alive, you're not. Another fabulous lesson I learned after getting a flat tire from one of those G-D pot holes. Good times!
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