I'd like to focus on those poor souls who do things out of love and only expect to receive the same in return.
To receive love, we must give love.
Give LOVE, not things or money. Ever notice that the ones who give the most never receive nearly half of what they put out there? This is because we are solely responsible for replenishing our "love tanks" and a lot of people think they need others to do it for them.
There's nothing wrong with being a giver as long as you actually have something to give and you have a reserve. If you're tank is on empty, you cannot survive. If you cannot survive, you cannot give. It's that simple. Here's a good example:
Your friend's car breaks down (again) and calls you for help. You pick them up, take them home and hear, "Oh my God, what am I going to do? I have to take my kid to school tomorrow and I won't have a car. I can't rent one because I'm broke!" So what do you do? You lend them your car, the only one you have because you feel guilty that your friend's kid needs to go to school. Now you need to bum rides from co-workers and other friends.
"Oh thank you so much. I won't forget this. I'll get you next time", you hear. Next time comes and guess who won't answer the phone? That's right, The Syphenator. So where was Mr./Ms. Useyouwhenitsconvenient when you needed them? At the club with their new "friend" and accidentally "missed your call". Whoops!
Sound familiar?
Yeah, I thought so.
Why do people think NO is a dirty word? NO, in case you didn't realize, is a complete sentence. Just like, "I can't believe this is happening to me!" Well believe it. Shit happens...to everyone. Nobody is exempt. He or she is not the only one going through shit these days. So the real question I have for you Mr./Ms. Giver is this:
WHY DO YOU ALWAYS FEEL GUILTY FOR SAYING NO?
If giving to someone puts an essential part of your life at risk then why do it? Here are some very good examples of things we should JUST SAY NO to.
- Listening to someone constantly complaining when they don't ever listen to your problems
- Running someones errands when they're perfectly capable of doing it them self
- Paying someone's bills when you're late on your own
- Taking time off work to babysit your SO's kids, but not having any PTO left for yourself
- Rearranging your schedule to do something for someone who never helps you in return
- Any favor for someone that can threaten the security of your job.
- Drugs
Love don't cost a thing...just a moment of your time.
Love is a constant pay-it-forward cycle that should never die. When love is real, that is. It's not just between two people. This cycle operates like the Bermuda Triangle, sucking in each person who attempts to travel there. The same goes for what I call Whackitis.
Whackitis is a virus caused by "whacks" to a person's energy field. A whack is the equivalent to daggers being tossed in our backs, creating holes in our spirits and aura. This virus spreads and acts like AIDS, chewing up and spitting out one's energetic immune system, leaving the aura weak and susceptible to other people's negativity. It'll shut down a healthy Ego causing us to be overly emotional, delusional, angry and sometimes completely drained. Only a reality check and self-love can cure it.
Love is also a choice.
I'd rather be sucked in by the Bermuda Triangle than have Whackitis. The Triangle consists of 3 islands and they are:
- Love thyself
- Love others
- Receive love
If you're ready to venture toward the Triangle of Love, these are the lessons you can expect to conquer when you get there...
- The gift of giving to yourself.
- An honest reality
- Acceptance and positive self-focus
- Detachment and eliminating energetic STD's
- Standard setting
It's never safe to assume that if you constantly give to someone who never reciprocates, they'll eventually do it some day. That day may never come. If you give someone a few chances and 1 out of 3 times they're available to you, that isn't too bad. I'm not asking you to demand perfection here. Like I said before, everyone goes through some heavy shit from time to time. We're aiming for a healthy situation overall.
It's time to break those self-imposed chains and jump on the plane to the Triangle. I'm ready. Are you?
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