The most difficult thing for me to do is keep my mouth shut when I'm passionate or excited about something. I'm great about staying silent for self-preservation purposes and/or when I'm avoiding assholes.
When it comes to confrontations, I feel I fall in the middle. I pick my battles wisely. If I feel the situation is worth working through, I'll confront those involved. If not, I ignore and walk away. It's pretty simple. Then there are those situations in which I think a little time and space is needed, then when I'm ready I'll go ahead and try to resolve the issue(s).
The biggest problem I'm seeing with folks on and offline lately is unnecessary drama. Now this isn't a new issue or anything and most healthy people experience it from time to time. What about the folks dealing with consistent, crazy D-R-A-M-A coming from the same people over and over again? Most of the time it's about them needing to control a situation they can't. The foundation for this behavior is severe insecurity and can only be controlled and/or cured from within.
I've blogged about this for years and yet there's always some new lesson to be learned and methods to deal, the older I get. This is one of the things I love about aging. My favorite so far is not giving a flying F about what randoms think. The opinions I care about the most of those coming from my husband and children. Next in line are other family members and friends, but that's it. Even though I live this way, I still feel the need to protect myself and my family from those who think they're entitled to my information and/or those who want to cause problems.
To battle the drama creator(s), I keep mouth shut, not allowing them to gather my private information. I'll also withhold major life events (or those in the works) from other people in my life who are connected to those drama creators, even if I'm not. I also do not post private stuff publicly on my social networking pages or this blog. If I don't care who knows, it'll be out there. Pretty simple.
The problem with putting yourself out there is that it may cause more unnecessary issues than intended OR make people see you in light you don't want to portray. The other thing I've noticed is that it's easy to lie about who you are online. If you want people to know the truth, great, then stop photo shopping your pictures or telling one-sided stories. Stop being a victim and blaming others for your life. Stop pretending to be someone you are not able to prove in person!
On the flip side, I completely support those who are not open and do not have social networking profiles. My husband is one of these people. The ONLY drama he attracts in life is from the wack-o baby mama of his daughters. He attracts her garbage because he picked the wrong person to procreate (and adopt) with when he was 22 and baby mama hasn't grown up since the break-up (many years ago). 7 more years and he'll be rid of her, the unnecessary bullshit and go back to having FULL privacy in his life. I'll be throwing an extravagant party in his honor.
With all of this said, the best way to avoid the crazies is to IGNORE THEM and keep your private life out of the hands of people who encourage the drama. Keeping quiet is the safe route and as always, do not indulge the nut jobs by participating in their game. All it's going to do is make you a guilty party, even if just by association.
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